When Opposites Attract

6.17.2014

My husband and I are two very different people. He likes the country life where I am most definitely a city girl. He prefers to spend weekends fishing or hunting and I like to spend them shopping with friends. He likes to go home and relax after work, but I prefer to hit up happy hour. His ideal Friday night is ordering a pizza and sitting on the couch, but I would much rather stay out way too late laughing and dancing with friends.

We are the complete opposite from one another.

Sometimes I will say things that make my husband physically cringe. When that happens I have to simply remind him that he knew what he was getting into when he married me. On the other hand, when I roll my eyes when my husband tells me that he is going to Bass Pro Shop (yet again!), he reminds me that I chose him and his lifestyle.

And he is right. 

I may not understand the obsession with camouflage or cleaning guns, but I do understand the heart full of love that my husband has for me. I will never understand the thrill that comes with getting up before day break to sit in the cold and wait for deer, but I understand the compassion for others that my husband has and his motivation to work hard for his family.

We don't have the same political beliefs or cheer for the same football team (quite the opposite actually), but we both value family and love above everything else. 

Our love is strong and unbreakable. My husband will spend the rest of his life teaching me to shoot a gun and trying to convince me to eat deer meat (never going to happen, honey) and I will spend my life trying to convince him as to why, as a matter of fact, I do need another Tory Burch purse.

One day we will have children of our own, and it is my belief that our children will be the most well rounded kids in the neighborhood (the verdict is still out, however, on whether that neighborhood will reside in the city or the country). They may not ever know which football team to cheer for on Saturdays, but they will know how to kill a deer, how to shop online, how cast a fishing line, and how to turn a wine bottle into home decor. They will know that love conquers all and that Jesus died on the cross for their sins. Our children will learn both sides of the political debate, and they will form their own beliefs and opinions. Our children will have Steven's love of the country and my love of the city all wrapped up into one. They will be perfect, just like the love that Steven and I share for each other. 

My husband and I challenge each other every single day. We teach each other patience and compromise. We help each other grow by reaching out of our own comfort zone and into the comfort zone of the other. With that comes frustration and disagreements, but how boring would life be without opening yourself up to something you never expected?

My husband and I are two very different people, but the love that we share together is the unlike any other. He is my everything, and I choose him, camouflage and all, every single day.

"Opposites attract because it's fun to get to know someone who isn't like you. Whatever they do is unpredictable and it'll throw you off. It makes time with them like a roller coaster of fun. It's nice to know there are people out there who don't want to be like everyone else."

26 comments:

  1. It is true, opposites do attract! My husband and I are opposite of you and yours. I prefer to stay in while Chris likes going out. I am the quiet, more reserved one that cringes at some of the stuff he says. Haha :)

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  2. I love this post so much!! It's so true!! Jackson and I are very different, but we are learning to love and embrace the differences. We often use the phrase, "You knew what this was!!" meaning the other was well informed of these traits before marriage. haha.

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  3. My husband and I are complete opposites too! When we do something the other one wouldn't necessarily agree with or do themselves, we just say "No judging!" Then we end up laughing about it, because we say it so much!

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    1. That's funny, and it is definitely proof that opposites DO attract! When you think about it, how boring would life be if we were exactly like our significant other?
      By the way, I tried to reply to you via e mail, but you are a no-reply blogger. :(

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  4. So, so true! This post was awesome. My husband and I also have those visibly cringing moments...though I think it's more me sometimes as he has zero filter. haha.

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  5. This is such a beautiful post :) Opposites really do attract, and they make the best relationships!

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  6. Such a precious post. If we married someone just like us, life would get pretty darn boring!!! Xxxx.

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  7. such a great post! I guess I have to find someone opposite from me :)

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  8. This is adorable! I absolutely think that there's something to be said for marrying someone that is different than you. It gives you things to talk about, teaches you more, and helps balance you out. I will never understand the getting up at 4am to go out and fish or walking miles in to the woods to hunt . . . but I'll be here to support him through it all! You two are just perfect!

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  9. love it! G and I are total opposites as well, but we know that n one else is going to accept us so unconditionally as each other.

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  10. Such a sweet post! And that picture of you and your husband is stunning! <3

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    1. Thank you so much!! You are so sweet! :)

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  11. I love this. I think when it comes down to it, as long as you have common morals & goals it'll work & all that extra stuff like football teams & fishing vs. shopping just add variety to the relationship.

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  12. Absolutely love this post - sounds just like my hubby and me! I'm not going to lie, shopping at Bass Pro Shop is something that my husband looks very much forward to... he loves his fishing and hunting!

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  13. Sounds exactly like my Hubs & I! I do like living in a small town but I have to get my shopping done in the big city!

    I was actually just trying to hang some home decor stuff in our living room last night... & you will never guess what I am having to work around... a deer head! Yep! I am that wife. But like you said we knew what we were getting ourselves into with the hunters... :)

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  14. Adore this post! My hubby and I are opposites (not on everything but a lot of things) I am just glad we root for the same baseball team. If he was a Dodgers fan that would have been a deal breaker ;)

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  15. My hubby and I are opposites too - but that's what makes us perfectly imperfect! He's a city boy, and I'm a country girl haha

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  16. Me and my fiance are total opposites, but that is definitely what we love most about each other! It just works. :) P.S. where did you get married? that looks mighty familiar to me!

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  17. Yes! So true! Opposites definitely attract. My husband & I are totally different. He is also obsessed with deer meat and will always be trying to convince me to eat it (not happening here either!) But- I wouldn't have it any other way and I know you wouldn't either!! =)

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  18. OH my gosh. This post. Words could not be truer, and thank god my husband is not the only one who is having an on going affair with Bass Pro Shop, but please tell me your hubby isn't crazy enough to make a 90 MILE DRIVE to the nearest one...because mine is #crazy

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  19. You guys are too cute together! I agree that opposite do attract but we most respect what's opposite about our hubby/wife, gf/bf.

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  20. My husband and I are totally different, it's crazy! But, we love each other so much.

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  21. I love this post and that you both embrace your opinions and accept them and each other for who you guys are. Such a sweet love!

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  22. OMG! I couldn't have scrolled through my 200 blog post long feed (I'm so behind) and hand picked a better post to read today. My fiance and I split up two days ago and I literally discovered that I cannot live a day without him.. I can sacrifice my selfish ways and he can do the same. We can realize that we have to embrace each other and remember why it was that we fell in love at first sight and never spent a second alone for months and have only spent less than two handfuls of nights alone in two years. This spoke so truly to me. Thank you!

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  23. This is perfect! Love your outlook on your love story! Y'all are precious!

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